Hey Reader,

A couple of years ago, right before the holidays, I found myself at a gas station, SCREAMING at a guy in a pick up truck because he'd cut me off to get to the pump first.

Now, listen, it was a dick move. Everyone around me agreed, he'd taken the spot that was RIGHTLY MINE. #vindication

Did he deserve a freak out lecture on how his BLATANT INSENSITIVITY meant I would, most likely, never feel Christmas Magic or enjoy a gingerbread latte again? Probably not.

But, at that point, my baseline was Crazy Pants.

I was consumed by the holidays. I took on way too much, felt like I couldn't ask for help, and wouldn't even deign taking a break because THERE WAS SO MUCH TO DO.

Oh, and it was all fueled by resentment and sprinkles of loathing.

TO ALL A GOOD NIGHT!

This morning while working out, I realized - I'm so chill this year.

Part of it is I'm much more selective about what I say yes to and, yes, the kids are older so they can help. But, the biggest thing?

I show up for myself first, every single day.

Before, I'd get the random mani-pedi or work out if I "had the time", but when things like Christmas came up, they'd go out the door and so would my sanity.

Now, I can't imagine missing my 6:15 work out or my 20 minutes of reading before bed. And if I did, my family would be all over me because they like the exercised, well read version of Kara much better as well.

It's taken me a long time to get here, but I now understand:
If I make the time for myself, I'm a nicer person. I have more patience. I can laugh and enjoy my family instead of silently plotting their demise because they failed to empty the dishwasher AGAIN.

The best way to take care of your family isn't necessarily to do more for them, but to take care of yourself first. Bring on the eggnog, baby!

And I know what you're thinking: Lady, I barely have time to brush my teeth properly!

Which is why I created the You Habit. 🎉

The You Habit is a weekly, email accountability program for moms who want to have fun again and start walking through the world as your most filled up self.

I know you don't have time for another class or weekly zoom where you're half-listening because you're trying to remember if it's your day to pick up car pool. Instead, it's all by email on your schedule.

It's a fast, easy way to make yourself a priority EVERY SINGLE WEEK next year. WAH?!?!?

Let's imagine how different it would feel to do something for yourself every week.

Would you be kinder? Have more patience? Be the fun mom you've always wanted to be?

Would you remember what it feels like to be YOU? Not the you where everyone wants something from you, but the you who's creative and interesting, who has dreams and ideas of her own.

The you that feels easy and joyful.

She's still in there - she's just buried under a whole lotta other people's needs. And with a little bit of space, you'd be surprised how quickly she will jump back to life.

And, because you're one of my favorites and on my list (THANK YOU!), I have a special subscriber bonus before I release it to everyone in the New Year.

🎉 Special Subscriber Bonus!

If you sign up by December 20th, you get a free, one hour coaching call with me, anytime throughout the year (I normally charge $250 just for this!).

You can use it to get clear on what fun you want to focus on, talk through patterns that might be blocking your progress, or work on building stronger boundaries. Whatever you need to get the most out of the program!

I'm not going to be doing much coaching next year so this might be the only chance to work 1-1 with me (and I'm literally only making it available to my list and Substack!).

Let's make next year the year you start having fun and feeling like your old self again.

​Click here to see all the deets!​
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xx. Kara

Kara Kull, Encourager-in-Chief​ Get this from a friend? Subscribe here! Need ideas for having more fun? Follow me on Substack.

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PS: I don't care whether you sign up or not, but it does matter if you do something for yourself this week, okay? MAKE IT A PRIORITY! 🥳

PPS: You can hit "reply" here and tell me what you'll do for yourself and I'll get back to you, just like in the YOU HABIT!!!!!! 😂

PPS: But, seriously, reply and tell me what fun you're having for yourself this next week.